Cheat Them out of Time… Then Give Them the Leftovers? Why?

It has been a personnel tendency, to spend so much intensified time in the work place. Being on time to learn, try to help others, giving my all out energy so we could have success. No matter what, you just want the best for everyone. When the customer keeps you late, it was always okay.  Someone needs a ride home 15 minutes out of your way, no problem. The manufacturer, calls at closing time, keeps you an extra hour, perfectly fine.  At the end of every day, you feel like you have put out 100% plus more.

Now, you have just put in a 12 hour day. You have arrived, you are home.  You can’t wait to put that same energy out there for the family right? Willing to do whatever it takes. 

Why would we give our career family 12 hours a day, all out energy, our undivided attention, then come home for 4 hours, and give our family an hour or two, of whatever we have left in the tank?

Remember, in our business one year turns into five in a flash. Our children, start first grade and bam, we are at their High School Graduation, with tears in our eyes, asking ourselves, where did the time go?

We have to pay attention to this business, things change daily. We also, have to pay this same attention to our spouses and children, they change daily too.  You need to get to those soccer games, the dance recitals. Through personal experience, girls need their fathers so much to help guide their emotions, so they can make good choices, as they get older.  Being in their lives, to read books when they are little, turns into texting them three times a day, when they are in junior high. They need to have training too. I always explain to my daughter, who is now 13, I know you are a great young lady, who makes good choices. It is not you, but the situation that you can put yourself in, that could be in question.

FACT:  I have a 28 year old DAUGHTER, who has a son. That makes me a Grandfather. I have a wonderful wife who has been both the mother and the father for our children. In many situations, I have cheated them out of too much time and they have gotten the leftovers, whatever I had left at the end of every day. 

That being said, if I am not working, I am with the family.

I will not be at my 13 year olds High School Graduation, with tears running down my face, asking myself, “Where did the time go?”  I will be at her graduation, with tears running down my face, thanking God that I was able to be a significant part of her life.

The business is worth millions but the family is PRICELESS!!!

In closing, you can be the best in this business, with time and energy. Be the best in your family business, with the same intensity and positive energy.

Do not cheat them out of anymore time and do not let them experience just the leftovers!

Go all out with the throttle wide open at home!!!
It will be worth every minute!!!

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Comment by Tony Provost on September 29, 2011 at 8:50am
joseph B.- You kept your priorities in order over the years my friend. Enjoy the time, YOU EARNED IT!!
Comment by Joseph M Bonincontri on September 28, 2011 at 7:29pm

wow what a great post. my wife of 23 years has always been a single parent to our 3 daughters. i have missed it all and  i look back with great sadness but i was lucky to have the greastest car wife any man could have she was the one who did it all on the home front and allowed me success in the auto buss. It was a price i had to pay but now i do have the time to share becuse of the sacrifice i made in the auto field

I thank my bride who held it all together to allow me to finally get there.

Comment by Tony Provost on September 27, 2011 at 5:07pm
Johnny B.- This was written, knowingly, most people have experienced this in their lifetime. I truly believe in great KARMA!! I truly feel lucky, that I have a wife who has been a true supportive person. That being said, the dynamic for me is home or work. I have put 100% on the two dynamics. Thanks for your comments.
Comment by Johnny B Awesome on September 27, 2011 at 4:59pm
  • Fantastic! However, what if your homeless? I know that was the case for me when I was looking for a family in Antarctica. For a brief time I had no one to come home to. I am glad things turned around for me! And this totally applies, to me. But If I hadn't worked hard and every second I would have no home to come home to. Home home on the range, for some people that range is there job ;) 
Comment by Tony Provost on September 26, 2011 at 7:36pm
Jeff Larger- I truly appreciate your promotion on Saturday. Hope all is well! Have a wonderful week.
Comment by Tony Provost on September 26, 2011 at 7:33pm

Tom Gorham- I want to thank you for promoting my blog on Saturday. Have a great close to your month.

Comment by Tony Provost on September 26, 2011 at 1:50pm
Jim- First and foremost, Thank you very much! My mindset, has always been to give my children, more opportunity and a better life than, my wife and I ever had. We feel extremely blessed and thankful! I am so motivated, on an hourly basis, to take whatever I am doing and make it better for all, that are around me. Congrats, again on your AutoSuccess, honor. YOU deserve it!
Comment by Jim Kristoff on September 26, 2011 at 1:28pm

Tony....I have read this blog several times now....

I have read through all the comments.....

YOU are priceless my friend!!!

Awesome.....simply awesome......

Comment by Tony Provost on September 24, 2011 at 4:48pm
Cathy- their is something to be said about great positive "karma"!! YOU should be so proud of yourself, to have your children, turning to you for worldly advice.
Comment by Cathy Aron on September 24, 2011 at 4:24pm
Amazing truth Tony!  Thank you for this priceless reminder!  It took some time before I realized that I had cheated my family.  The most valuable lesson I learned is that my children don't need me when I have time, they need me when the time is right for them.  Although my kids are adults (24 thru 30) now, they still ask for my input about ideas and decisions they have.  I am grateful that we managed to keep the thread of communication amoung us throughout their growing years!

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